A student who has no interest in lessons and anything you say and do, can have a terrible impact on the rest of the class. What you must remember however is that this student probably wants to succeed – most do, at heart – but has virtually given up due to a succession of failures, discouragement and low self-image. It may take time to reach this student and help him see life (including your lessons) differently but there are definitely steps to take which will help turn the situation round. Here are a few...
If you feel they are unlikely to turn up for a 1:1 meeting, don’t worry – you can increase the chances by proposing it at the right time. There’s no point telling them you want to see them in your office when they’re in their ‘I hate you and your lessons’ mood; they won’t be interested.
Wait, instead, for a time when they are going to be more receptive. A good time is when they’ve done something well, when you’ve praised them for a job well done, when you’ve just complimented them on their work – i.e. when they are more receptive.
For example, if they play football on the school team, try and find the time to go and watch the game. They’ll see you on the side line and will appreciate it. Next time you see them you can mention the game and talk about the goal they scored or their part in the brilliant teamwork. Now they’re listening, they know you have interest in them and they know that you want to help them. This would be a better time to suggest the meeting.
It’s a huge problem when parents and other family members have deeply entrenched, negative experiences of school going back through several generations; they’ll be hesitant in dealings with teachers. If they themselves failed at school and consequently aren’t living the life of their dreams, it’s not surprising that they lack the faith in education we expect and need them to have. If in addition their child has been a source of constant distress at school, any contact the parents have had with staff at the school is likely to have been negative. They’ll have been told when he has been missing school, when he’s repeatedly failed to hand in homework, when he’s been in a fight and when he’s been abusive to a member of staff.
They won’t have heard a word when he’s done something well. A good way, if not the only way, to start to get these parents on side is to change their expectation that every communication from school will be a negative one. The more time you spend connecting with them through regular positive contact, the more they will get used to the idea that a call from school doesn’t automatically ruin their day.
A 30-second update a couple of times a week – “Hi Maureen, just a quickie to let you know he’s been great this week; homework was in on time and he managed to keep it together in maths again.” – goes a long way towards doing this. And despite what anyone says, I’ve witnessed enough ‘hard’ fathers and ‘rough’ mothers breaking down in tears in my office when given news of a son or daughter’s good progress to believe that this is worth doing.
For a complete resource kit on harnessing support from parents, you can download our free mini-guide here – ‘Get The Parents On Board’.
i.) Ask them a question at the start of the lesson related to the lesson content. They will probably refuse to answer but that’s okay – it’s probably their fear of looking ‘too clever’ or fear of making a fool of themselves.
ii.) Take the pressure off them by offering them to nominate a friend who can help them answer the question/answer it for them. This makes for an easier option for them – but the key is that they will see themselves as being involved in the answering process.
iii.) Ask them to paraphrase what their friend said so that they answer the question themselves.
iv.) Later in the lesson, when other students are involved in independent study, coach the student further by getting them to answer the question for you again on a 1:1 basis. Encourage them to break the answer down into clear steps so that they are totally sure of the process. Offer a little extra ‘in-depth’ information to add to their answer and ask them once more to show off their new knowledge and tell you ‘all they know’ about the subject. Congratulate them and tell them you will be asking them at the end of the lesson to repeat their answer to help the other students remember (the extra ‘in-depth’ knowledge you’ve given them will give them the opportunity to shine if they wish).
v.) At the end of the lesson let them leave on a high by answering the question again as part of your plenary session.
vi.) Get them to answer the question next lesson as part of your starter.
Remember that you don’t need to limit this strategy to just one student during a lesson. You can feasibly have ALL your students leaving class feeling that they’ve actually learned something.
I hope you enjoyed this post. Most of the content comes from my book ‘The Classroom Management Tool Kit’. Depending on when you're reading this, it 'should' be available on Amazon.